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He Washes My Feet

    After that, he poured water into a basin and began to wash his disciples’ feet, drying them with the towel that was wrapped around him. ~John 13:5

      Something menacing and invisible has been creeping through this family, probably brought into our haven by a small-ish boy who–and please tell me if you know why–was chewing on library books.

      I knew I shouldn’t have gone to the library in January, but we had remained healthy through the holidays, and I had gotten smug. Besides, I justified to my man, how can we hold up our heads in homeschool society if our library cards aren’t worn clear through?

      He didn’t say no, but I knew he was thinking it, and I should have listened, should have obeyed.

      But I didn’t, and the invisible menace creeped in.

      To fully appreciate the depth of my man’s subsequent actions, you must understand that he is repulsed by body fluids. With the possible exception of a small amount of “baby mustard” from a nursing baby–his own baby, mind you–he prefers to leave the damper side of parenting to me.

      So when the first of the victims–the book-biter–began erupting, followed shortly by four siblings, I set to work scrubbing and bathing and wiping and disinfecting. It’s what mothers do.

      It’s what fathers do, too. While I bathed sick children, he stripped beds, scrubbed carpets, removed sofa upholstery for washing, bagged up stuffed “friends” caught in the line of fire, and did remarkable things with vinegar. He even gently held back masses of hair on sick girls and dried wet chins and damp eyes. Apart from a bit of initial mumbling about libraries, snot-nosed kids, irresponsible parents, and the surface-life of certain bacteria, there was no I-told-you-so.

      We make a great team!

      But two nights ago, our team was cut in half. It was my turn to go down, and I took the baby with me. I usually skirt the edges of sickness, dangling my toe in now and then, but I almost never dive into its throes with the rest of the family. Almost never.

      By the second night in the grip of the bug, I was barely recognizable as the bride my man carried over the threshold of the rinky-dink apartment we called home fourteen years ago. My hair, my face, my eyes, my ragged excuse for pajamas–I was a vision. And I smelled even worse. The baby only missed me two out of the six times she vomited, and the lingering scent was only mildly subdued by the baby wipes I called a shower.

      Touched with the bug himself, my man nevertheless took pity on my sorry state. With the children as capable and willing helpers, he tended my needs, dabbled with the laundry, spent time in the kitchen with the girls, ventured to the grocery store, and quietly washed baby vomit number five off his arms.

      I slept on the couch that second night, selfishly not wanting to be disturbed by the midnight needs of the small-ish book-biting boy that shares our bedroom. It wasn’t long before I stumbled to the nearest bathroom and briefly wondered, in my state of weakness, if the floor wasn’t close enough.

      A pragmatic child, jolted from her sleep by my not entirely noiseless trial, retrieved Daddy from his own deep and well-earned rest and reported my condition. He found his shell of a wife in a condition that likely inspired the “for worse” segment of the marriage vow.

      I mumbled my apologies, but he shushed them away. He was there to help. He was in the realm where he least wanted to be, and he was there willingly. I went back to my couch, and he toted, tended, and scrubbed…and then he kissed me. Smelly, clammy, ragged me.

      I squinted at the clock. “Happy Valentine’s Day,” I mumbled. “I love you,” he assured me before he went to bed, and I smiled.

      That was marriage. That was love. He had washed my feet.

      Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. ~John 13:14

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      A Beautiful Thing

      My grandfather keeps a photo of my grandmother taped inside his closet door.  I believe it is circa 1970, and she is wearing a swimsuit.  That is the single most romantic thing I know.

      When he looks at her, you can see it in his eyes, the love, the commitment, and no regrets.

      Oh, they have their share of troubles.  They may not be what some people would have considered compatible.  But 61 years ago they looked at each other and said, “I do.”  And they did.

      They knew that divorce was not an option.  When you remove the option and take seriously the vow you’ve made before a holy God, you stay.  Not only do you stay, but you make it work, and you make it work well.

      I see a lot of beauty in my grandparents’ relationship, even in the midst of trials, even when beauty is hard to see. Perhaps it is because their marriage reflects my own in many ways and I know what lies beneath.  Perhaps it is because my personality is very much like my grandmother’s, and I share her struggles, her disappointments, her triumphs, and most especially her lessons.  Perhaps it is because I love them so dearly and believe in God’s gift of marriage so fervently, that He has allowed me a glimpse.

      Whatever the reason, I see a lot of love in the patterns, the habits, and the involuntary comments of concern.  I see the determined resolve beneath the flippant remarks and the exasperated “Oh Dearie!”  I see lifelong commitment in the worn cushions on the “davenport,” the pet names that slide off the tongue unnoticed, and the orange juice and crackers my grandfather brings my grandmother each morning.  I even see a spark of romance in the charming manner my grandmother says “we” and the shy way my grandfather grins and winks like he’s been married six weeks instead of 61 years.

      It’s a beautiful thing, that photo in the closet. A beautiful thing.

      The Eyes of Love

      The Eyes of Love

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      If Mama Ain’t Happy…

      <i>Contagious joy</i>!

      Contagious joy!

      It has been gloomy here in our desert. The sky has been grey and cheerless, the mountains obscured by listless clouds seemingly reaching to the earth. Living almost constantly under the cheering influence of the sun, we desert-dwellers suffer a bit of enviro-shock when its warming rays are missing. With the darkening of the skies comes the darkening of the mood.  We grow tense, morose, and dilatory. It’s pathetic, I know, this micro-version of seasonal anxiety disorder, but, hey, nobody ever said you had to be tough to live in the desert with air-conditioning!

      I liken the gloomy effects of an overcast day to the contagious results of a mother’s countenance.  Like most overused sayings, the expression “if Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy” is grounded in the basic truths of a mother’s influence. Mother’s smile, kind word, or loving caress spreads peace over her brood, but equally as potent is Mother’s frown, sharp rebuke, or impatient gesture. Read the rest of this entry »

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      I love making my children smile!

      I love making my children smile!

      After I went out on a limb and explained why my Beloved does not give me chocolate, what do you suppose he did for the first time ever on Valentine’s Day? You guessed it. He presented me with a big, beautiful box of chocolate.  Ha ha ha! It’s pretty safe giving me chocolate these days, since I’m good at sharing, and the box has been pilfered by everyone.  I think there is one turtle left, so I’d best get it before…oops…too late.

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      Happy Valentine’s Day!

      My man, my Beloved

      My man, my Beloved

      Have you ever dared to venture to the store on Valentine’s Day? It’s very amusing and pathetically sad at the same time. Valentine’s Day is one day when the men vastly outnumber the women in the store. Almost every one of these men is trying to find something, anything that is red, heart-shaped, cuddly or sweet to give to the woman in his life to appease her until next Valentine’s Day. Most of them look confused, some resigned, others annoyed. Why are they there? Because society tells them they have to show their love on this day above all others. It’s pitiful actually. (Never mind that my own dear husband is at the store right now! He’s buying a router…and not in the shape of a heart.)

      Fun with Daddy

      Fun with Daddy

      I remember from years ago in my waitressing days a threat made by the restaurant owner’s twenty-something daughter. She fumed that her “significant other” better make a good showing at Valentine’s Day or it was over…again. I asked her what she had in mind, not particularly wanting to know the answer, but not having an escape route at the time. (Life lesson, always have an escape route!) She showed me the catalog she had been carrying around with her all week. She pointed an adamant finger (can fingers be adamant? I think so!) at a rather garish piece of jewelry with a shocking price tag of $349. The poor man. I hope he ran while he still could.

      My husband and I wear silver bands on the ring fingers of our left hands. We purchased them together at a small jewelry stand at a Renaissance Fair in Illinois. We never can come to a consensus on what they actually cost. I say $30 for the set. He says $20. At the time, it was a lot of money for us. We have in the past discussed getting gold rings with diamonds and other frills, but then we laugh, rub our rings on our jeans a bit to shine them up, and go on living. Read the rest of this entry »

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